Saturday, February 28, 2009
Thursday, February 26, 2009
December 19th, 2008
On December 17th, 2008 "Sherry" called me and asked me if we would be interested in adopting "Buddy". "Charles", her husband, has definitely decided he is not going to adopt "Buddy" - that he is not meant to adopt "Buddy". That has left "Sherry" with the heart wrenching task of trying to do what is best for "Buddy" outside of keeping him.
For months now "Sherry" has been working on becoming a foster parent so she would be allowed to adopt "Buddy". That has been her plan all along. "Buddy" has been with the family for months now and has called "Sherry" 'Mom' for almost the entire time. To him she IS 'Mom'.
"Sherry" went to Mark, my father-in-law, and was talking to him about the situation and he told her that he thought Ben and I would be interested in taking "Buddy" so she called me to ask me about it.
"Sherry" has ran into two problems in adopting "Buddy". One was when they were doing their home study "Sherry" and "Charles" would not agree to not spank their kids, they have 5 biological kids - 3 of which still live at home, or "Buddy"-which is a requirement if you are getting licensed through our agency.
Number two, when a social worker came back out to their home and explain how close they were to being able to adopt "Buddy" (his parental rights have been terminated) "Charles" was open about the fact that he is not sure he is the one that should adopt "Buddy". That floored me. Ever since "Sherry" told me that "Charles" had told her that I have not been able to understand it. Why would you go through all these classes, the paper work, let this kid live in your house for 6 months and then decide to fess up to these feelings. Ever since I have heard that my heart has been breaking into a million pieces for "Sherry".
When "Sherry" called me she said, "Mark said you might be interested in "Buddy"." I told her that I considered "Buddy" her son. I did not want to take him from her, but IF something happened and she was not allowed to adopt him for some reason I would gladly take him.
She then went on to tell me that "Charles" had made his final decision and that was that they would not be adopting "Buddy". You could hear the heart wrenching sadness in "Sherry's" voice. It was the sadness of a Mom that had to give up HER child and didn't know what to do.
I could tell she was on a mission to do what was best for "Buddy". All of us Mom's know that feeling, the feeling that we would die for our kids and we would do anything in our power to protect them. She gave me the phone number to "Buddy's" social worker and encouraged me to call her soon. We hung up and there, in the Target parking lot, I started praying - and crying.
To be continued...
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Tuesday Kobe's class went to the planetarium :)
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
Monday, February 23, 2009
*Kobe at Six Months at one of Alyssa's wedding dress fittings*
*Ben between 4 and 6 years old I imagine perfecting the pout he would later see on his own child's face about 20 years later*
Friday, February 20, 2009
Thursday, February 19, 2009
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
I would never do that.
Monday, February 16, 2009
Yesterday from 4 pm - 8 pm I got to go sit with Bobbie and Noah and got them all to myself! :) I got to hold Noah quite a bit and to me he looks ALOT like his big brother did when he was first born.
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Friday, February 13, 2009
Thursday, February 12, 2009
Oh, I cannot wait for this home study to be over! What a wild few days Ben and I have had. Ben is sick with a terrible cold, my back has had me riling in pain and yet "In our weakness God's strength is made perfect". I love that verse, especially right now, because I can feel it as I hobble around doing what needs to be done!
Wednesday, February 11, 2009
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
Monday, February 9, 2009
Of course we have the "thru the years" shots of Kobe.
and a picture from our wedding, my favorite shot from that day...
Oh, and this lovely senior picture of me. I was so happy in high school :)
I guess I would have to say this is my favorite thing in his wallet. This is a picture of us from when we FIRST started dating. We took it with a camera that takes your picture and turns it into a sticker. He has it stuck to the left side of his open wallet. I have a feeling that might be why he has had the same wallet all these years.
Friday, February 6, 2009
Thursday, February 5, 2009
Wednesday, February 4, 2009
David was having none of this photo session, it is amazing we ever got this good of a shot!
And lastly, this picture will crack me up for years to come. Could I have gotten an angle that made Noah look any huger??? I don't think so :)
Tuesday, February 3, 2009
Monday, February 2, 2009
Thanks Gpa Wentzel for the pictures (I was busy with video :) )