I sat in-between people I didn't know, one lady there by herself and the set of Grandparents who are there to foster their grandchild. Quite a few people showed up for the second week, I could only identify one couple that did not return, but there are others that didn't show up because there was more room in the class than last week.
Our Trainer pulled out the Green Rule book and all we did in class was go thru ALL the rules. Very overwhelming. Between that and her stories about why these are the rules (example: You are not to leave a child sleeping in their car seat. Why? Because sometime in the past year a Mom dropped her infant off to daycare sleeping in their car seat and no one took them out and the harness cut off his air supply and they died.)
After hearing so many stories like that (and far worse ones) it makes your head spin. Then, when they are going thru what condition your home needs to be in (which are just basic living conditions) she would tell stories about what she has seen in Foster Parent's homes and all you can think to yourself is "That is horrible." Why would they need to TELL you that you have to have a flushing toilet? Isn't that "standard"? Why do they need to tell you their should be no gaping holes in your floor? So, anyway, all Ben and I have to do is get a Carbon Monoxide Detector and make sure all the fire alarms are working.
Then they go into how you should treat the kids. For example, she had some foster kids report that the family they were staying with would eat a separate, normal dinner from the foster kids while the foster kids ate peanut butter sandwiched EVERY night in a different location than the family was eating. And it ended up being true. I don't know what to even say to that except there must be a lot of people doing Foster Care for the wrong reasons. How could you treat kids like that? I don't get it, the more you get into it the more you see there are real problems here in a place made to "help kids".
It is just a lot to digest and wrap your brain around. Especially when you grew up not ever personally knowing ANYTHING about foster care and what it could be like.
I am glad God opened our eyes to something that needs help, even though it is overwhelming!