I want you all in "blog land" to know that my reason for posting these journal entries is to show how we came to the decision to be foster parents (adoptive foster parents).
It all happened so quickly I think it is my way of processing everything.
I think that I will try to stick to posting them every Tuesday so I have it "scheduled".
Here are my 2nd & 3rd entries:
June 2, 2008
Today was my Great Aunt Anna’s Funeral. Over the past few days I was able to meet my Dad’s cousin who adopted a child from Russia several years ago. She is 7 now and Kobe and her had a pretty good time hanging out which was nice for both of them. Jamie was adopted at 18 months (officially adopted) and has a pretty neat story about some of her medical records and how she was supposed to have something wrong with her brain but it ended up that the doctors over in Russian were actually just lying to make it look like she has something wrong with her. Anyway, it is so precious to see Jamie’s Mom still tear up as she talks about how God brought Jamie into her life and how perfectly they fit together.
So, I still am wondering, is there a child out there that we are meant to adopt? Are they born already? Is it a boy or a girl? Will they fit in with our family right away or will it take lots of time? When will we meet them? Will we know they are “the one” the first time we see them?
It is so weird to have so many questions and no answers. No sense of a reasonable time line…nothing. But I have God and He knows. That has to be good enough.
June 3, 2008
I called the Lapeer DHS today; I was referred to a lady named Karen. She was nice and very honest. She said most, if not all, children that are “wards of the state” are considered special needs children. She said I should really educate myself about special needs kids and see if that is something I am equipped to deal with. Also, when I mentioned Kobe she made sure I was very aware that a lot of these kids have been molested, whether we know about it yet or not, and they may have issues like that that they try to re-enact or have other problems because of and that you need to be very careful bringing this into your home if you have a child. Obviously I agree. I will not be bringing any little one into our home that is even close to Kobe’s age I don’t think. I think I am going to have to stick to 3 or under. As I talked to Karen she referred me to a private adoption agency and I called them and they gave me lots of figures to think about.
$2000 Home Study Fee
$200 Application fee (to be sent in with half the Home Study fee)
If we adopt a White child the cost will be $12,000
If we adopt a black or bi racial child it will be $8,000
If we find our own birth parent it will be $6,000
Also, there will be a few hundred dollars in legal fees if the adoption is uncontested by the birth parent.
Also, after the child is ours there will have to be two visits done afterwards by the agency that will cost $450 each.
Karen gave me the number to the Genesee Office (calling it a “zoo down there”) and I called and listened to some of the recording before hanging up…I couldn’t handle much more information this morning. Maybe tomorrow…
To be continued...