i was wondering if people who were in a similar circumstance as us would use it and i guess i got may answers. i would just like to point out that no matter if you would or wouldn't use it, i don't think there is a "right" or "wrong" answer.
i think if you use it, it is fine. if you don't, it's fine. and i can relate to EVERY comment that was left because I have thought about all of it from every point of view.
thanks for you thoughts, it kinda helped :) lol