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Saturday, June 19, 2010

So much going on - no time to post in the summer :)

Well, it is summer time so everyone has abandoned blog land, but not me :)

I have been very busy with the kids, just the day to day stuff fills up the WHOLE day and if you throw in one extra thing the day is REALLY busy. On top of taking care of the 3 kids I still work from home doing video work and apparently there is a lot of work to be done! I have been super busy with that too which is awesome but means I am not getting much sleep.

So, K has been gone for over a week now and I just can't believe, even with a new 18 mo old here, how QUIET this house is. It is so relaxed compared to when K was here, I guess there is just nothing relaxing about him. He was the first one up everyday and the first thing out of his mouth was always asking me for something in a very loud voice. I am not a morning person so that was really hard for me to get used to. The other crazy thing is watching the 3 kids play together minus K. They all get along. No one is crying, whining, screaming, tattling...I mean once in a while they do but NOTHING compared to what it was like when K was here. I never would have dream that he was the stimulus for all of that. I thought Kobe was just being a pain and that S was being a brat...but as soon as K left the picture there has been a lovely harmony that has settled here. It is obvious to me that we did the right thing. Plus, I bet he is having a blast being the baby at his own house and getting tons of attention. I hope this is what is called a win win. :)

I had Lizzy's first visit on Wednesday. It was so sad for a couple different reasons.

1. I don't think she really cares about her bio mom

2. She is in love with her bio dad that has no rights to her

When she saw her dad she was so excited and snuggled right in and just laid on him while he told her how much her loved her over and over and over...

He is the one that has been raising her and I think they are very bonded. I don't see much of a bond to her bio mom. The crazy thing is, because Lizzy's mom was married to someone else when she gave birth to Lizzy her bio dad doesn't have rights to her...at all. The court has made that very clear. He doesn't get to go to visits with her or anything. He got to see her for, like, 5 minutes in the waiting room then had to leave. So sad.

I also spent some time talking to the Aunt Lizzy was living with and she was telling me that Lizzy's bio mom was still failing drug tests and wasn't doing any of what she needed to to get her back. I guess bio mom also has an 11 yr old son that she lost rights to and now lives with a grandparent and she isn't allowed to see him at all. It is funny how when you ask people if they have other kids they will say "Oh yeah" as if they take care of them every day and they really haven't seen them in years. I know they still gave birth to them, but the way they say it would lead you to believe it is so much different than that.

Lizzy's visit was only 1 hr so very quickly it was over. She did really good and was fine going home with me. It went pretty good I would say. It will be interesting to see how her hearings go.


Not Just A Birth Mom said...

It breaks my heart to hear that her bio dad has no rights, and she has no connection to her bio mom... Isn't there something he can do to get rights? I mean, bio mom lost her rights, shouldn't they give bio dad a chance?
I'm glad to hear she is adjusting well with you guys :) It seems like she is very content to be in your home!

gram said...

Thanks for the update. I love reading them. I am so happy the girls are so happy in your home and your life is more calm.